Dear Pastor,

I have a problem that I need to be resolved very quickly. I have been with my child's father for nine years. We have been through a lot together and I stood by him all the way. He is like this: he lies and cheats a lot and he beats me sometimes. As time goes by, I keep drifting away from him.

I have a son who is seven and a daughter who is five. I love this man more than I love myself. I always give him the best. I make sure he wears and eats the best. But, all of a sudden, the love I once had for him is no longer there.

What really happened is that we had a little argument and he beat me until I was knocked out. He was the one that threw water on me. And I went to the doctor and he said the beating I got in my face could have killed me.

We broke up for three months and every day he kept coming back and asking for forgiveness. I told him he was forgiven the same night he did it. My face was swollen for one week. My friends told me not to speak to him again, but I didn't hear. And during my break up with him, I met a guy who was charming, loving, caring and a generous person. We didn't see each other for long because he had to go overseas during that time.

During his absence, my baby father and I were getting back together, but I was still waiting on the guy who was overseas as well. I called him and told him that it was over between us because I was trying to patch up the life I had with my boyfriend.

We went on for about eight months. After that, the feeling I had was just slipping away. I tried and tried, but there was nothing I could do about it. It was natural and the man I had on my mind kept popping up in my head. I see him sometimes and he sees me too, but we just smile and go on our way.

I need help before I lose my mind.

Losing My Mind

Dear Losing My Mind,

It is just a matter of time before you start cheating, because you have lost interest in the man with whom you are living and another man is on your mind. So, do what is right. Bring an end to your present relationship. You don't love your child's father anymore. Free up yourself! Move out!

Pastor