Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and I look forward to reading it every week. I am just 16 but have a loving boyfriend. We are friends for one year now. He is 32 and he is engaged to be married.

That is a big problem to me, because on my 16th birthday he took my virginity. He took me out after school and took me to a certain place and gave me a BlackBerry cellular phone for my birthday. Then we had sex. It was painful, but he was tender. I don't feel pains anymore when we are having sex.

He calls me every day. When my mother saw me with the phone and asked me where I got it, I told her that my classmates put money together and bought it for my birthday. She believed. I can get anything from him, but I don't ask for a lot because my mother is strict and I wouldn't be able to take them home. Whenever he gives me money, I hide it where my mother cannot see it.

I know I am not an adult, but I would like to stop him from getting married. He said we can still be friends, nothing will change. I love him so much. I don't know what to do.

C.K., St. Andrew

Dear C.K.,

You think highly of this 32-year-old man, but I wish to point out that he is not a good man. In fact, he is a very wicked man. And you are naïve.

This man knows that you are only 16 years old. You are not an adult and he encouraged you to have sex with him. He didn't have to do that. He is engaged to another woman.

He gave you a cellphone and that day he took your virginity. He is not such a nice man as you think.

You should perish the thought of trying to stop him from getting married. You cannot prevent him from doing so. What you can do, right now, is to end the intimate relationship with him. He wants both of you to continue the relationship, even after he is married. No way, end the relationship now.

This man will cause you much distress if you continue with him. Concentrate on your schoolwork. This man is trouble. Go home after classes. Don't go out with him anymore. Don't take any more money or anymore gifts from him.

Pastor