Greetings to you and to the world. I am a regular reader of your column and I find it to be very helpful and interesting. I am 35 years old and never married, but I have had a few men in my life. None offered to marry me, so I have been single. The sex with them was enjoyable.

Recently, I met a 55-year-old man who is divorced and we like each other. He has his own business. His children are grown and he shares house with a sister who is 60 years old and was never married. The house belongs to him. She seems to like me. She is always friendly whenever I go there. He has proposed to marry me.

My big problem is that this man is suffering from a heart condition and is very sacred of making passionate love. He said the doctor told him he should not exert himself too much. Even when I try to go easy, he is fretting and begging me to remember his problem.

Now, don't get me wrong. I love this man, but I don't know what to do because at times I like a little rough lovemaking, and he cannot do that to me.

I don't know what to do because he has good qualities and he is not a beggar. He can provide for me, but in the lovemaking department he falls flat. Do you think I can get him to change?

G.F., St Catherine

Dear G.F.,

Please remember that you have had men in your life who were able to take you on marathons, but they left you. It was just sex, and when they were tired of you, they moved on.

Here comes this 55-year-old man and he has much more than lovemaking to offer you, and all you are thinking about is his lack of ability to ride rough in the bedroom. There are many men who have heart problems but lovemaking is not a problem for them. They follow the advice of their doctors.

Say yes to the marriage proposal. Accompany him to see his heart specialist and tell the doctor of his fears and ask advice.

Pastor