I am 26 and am having a problem. I have two children, but they are not for my husband. My husband and I are having sexual problems. When we got married, he was a virgin. He didn't know anything about sex. I had to teach him.

I told him when I met him that I was not good enough for him, because I started to have sex when I was 18, and when I was 19, I got pregnant. I got pregnant again when I was 23, for a different man, then I became a Christian and I stopped sleeping with different guys.

My husband is 24, and when he told me he was a virgin I didn't believe him. Two days before we got married, we had sex. And pastor, my husband's penis is very, very small. Sometimes when we are having sex my vagina makes a lot of noise. He asked me why it is making a lot of noise and I told him it is because his penis is too small.

Pastor, I am asking you, what can we do to solve this problem? This has never happened before when I was in the world and having sex with other guys.

W.G., St. Mary

Dear W.G.,

First of all, let me begin by saying that I am glad you became a Christian and you are married. I want you to know that you are quite fortunate to find a man who was a virgin to be your husband. Virgin men at that age are not many these days.

You claim that his penis is very small, and you believe that the noise you are hearing during intercourse is caused by the small size of his penis. I suppose that what you are trying to say is that his penis does not fill you up because you believe that you are large.

I want you to know that many women are having the same experience during sex which you consider embarrassing. What you need to understand is that during foreplay your vagina expands as it gets ready to receive the penis. And, sometimes during intercourse, especially if the man is thrusting, it pushes air into the vagina and it may make a funny sound. That does not happen all the time, and I repeat, lots of women have had that experience.

It is really nothing to worry about. And I doubt very much that it has anything to do with the size of your vagina or your husband's penis. Sometimes this strange sound may occur when couples do certain positions. Some couples just laugh when they hear the noise, while others may feel embarrassed. You need not worry about it. It is just air.

Concerning the size of your husband's penis, perhaps both of you need to discuss that with a medical doctor. Do not give your husband the impression that the men with whom you had sex before him had penises which were much larger and they were able to sexually satisfy you. He will use that against you, and you may live to regret telling him so much about your past.

Pastor