I am 14 years old and I am writing you because I don't know what to do. I am living with my parents but my mother is away.

She is not coming back until summer. I have a little brother and both of us are with my father. My brother and I share a room but different beds.

Every week my father brings different women to the house when he believes we are sleeping. My little brother is always asleep but sometimes I am not. Before taking the women into the house, my father would come into my room and peep to make sure that we are asleep, then he would take the women in.

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He takes the women away very early in the morning before we get up to get ready for school. Every time my mother calls, she asks if my daddy is behaving himself and I lie and tell her yes. Sometimes I want to tell her, but I am afraid. My father doesn't know that I know what is going on. He tries to be smart about it.

Please tell me whether I should tell my mother.

F.,

Dear F.,

If you should talk to anybody at all about this matter, it is your father. And if you think he would verbally or physically abuse you, don't say anything at all.

If you were to tell your mother, she would be very unhappy and it may eventually lead to the breaking up of the family. And your father will always blame you for whatever may happen between him and his wife.

Although your father is misbehaving, try not to take sides. Try to be respectful to him and please do not say anything to your brother.

Pastor