I am having a problem, and I am writing for your advice. I am married and my wife and I go back to school days. When she left high school and wanted to go to college, I went to work and helped her. I worked with my father and she and I lived together for two years before we got married. I am 27 and she is 26.

I drive an old van, but my wife bought a new car and she refuses to allow me to drive her car. She has a good job and she is now showing off on me. I don't know what she earns as salary. I want us to have a child, but she is not interested.

She used to go to church, but she stopped. She stopped doing things for me. She said all I have is an old van. She told me that one day I will come home and don't see her. I don't know if she has a boyfriend.

I am trying to do a business for myself, so money is not running as before. That is one of the main things that is causing the problem. She does not want us to go for counselling.

Please talk to me pastor.

L.E.,

Dear L.E.,

You have done your best in helping your wife to get an education while you denied yourself from furthering yours. Some folks may call that commitment and love. I call that lack of common sense. While she was studying at university, you should have been attending an institution too.

She does not see you as her equal. So that is part of the problem. You believe she is not treating you right because you are not earning much. That is not the whole truth.

She has a good job and when her friends ask her what work does her husband do and what he drives, she is embarrassed because you are not standing strong. If money was running and you had a good job, she would have allowed you to drive her car and would be willing to become pregnant.

She has already warned you she would leave you, so expect the worst. She is ungrateful. Her heart is not in this relationship. It is only a matter of time before she goes.

Pastor