Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you. I met a man and we became friends. He lifts weights and he is very sexy. He lives with a girl but he gives me money every week. I love him and at the moment I don't have a boyfriend. I broke up with my boyfriend because he cheated on me.

He took me to country for a weekend, and I enjoyed the time, but I was scared sometimes while we were having sex . No man has ever done the thing he did to me in bed. The only time we put on clothes is when we were going to eat or we knew the workers were coming to clean the room or make up the bed.

We made love for the entire weekend. About the middle of the night he tied me up for over two hours and made love to me. I was scared but I did the same to him the following day. And he groaned and groaned.

When he took me back to Kingston, he gave me $35,000. But now I cannot sleep because I know he is with his girlfriend. She also works with him.

I don't want to lose him. Please help me.

T.E., St. Andrew

Dear T.E.,

What do you want me to say? Do you want me to tell you that you should do everything possible to get this man to leave the woman with whom he is living?

You claim that you and your ex-boyfriend broke up because he cheated, but you spent a weekend with a cheater. So you have left one cheater for another cheater. You had a good time with this man, and he paid you for the time you spent with him. Why do you think he gave you $35,000? It was because you gave him $35,000 worth of sex in all forms.

You were scared because he engaged you in bondage sex. And that was new to you.

This man is not going to leave his woman, but he would take you for another weekend whenever it is possible. You would be wise to leave him before his girlfriend finds out.

Pastor