I have a serious problem which I would like you to help me with. I am in a one-year relationship with a man. He is much older than I am. When I just met him he was single, because he had just broken up with his former woman. I was thinking to myself that all the bad experiences I had encountered in my previous relationship with other younger men, this would be the ideal person for me. But I guess all that glitters may not be gold.

We started dating, then I started visiting his house every other weekend because he lives in the country and I live in Portmore. About five months into the relationship, I observed that his behaviour towards me was changing. After we finished having sex he would turn his back to me. Whenever he hears a love song, he would just start singing and then looking out of space and just instantly remove from where I am. Sometimes when I get out of his bed, he turns around, but whenever I return, he would turn his back to me.

ex-girlfriend

He always finds something to say about his ex-girlfriend. I think even though she broke his heart, he enjoys calling her name because maybe it gives him satisfaction to his soul.

This attitude just breaks my heart and he continues to do it. Whenever I ask him if he wants us to part, he would say no but I think he is lying. I get the picture that his love for his ex-girlfriend will never die and he has no intention of putting the past behind him.

I await your response.

S.O., Portmore, St. Catherine

Dear S.O.,

This man does not love you. You should stop visiting his house. And you should end the relationship with him. He is comparing you to his ex-girlfriend. He would prefer to have her in his life. He does not want to tell you not to come back to see him because you are satisfying his sexual needs for the time being. But that would change when he meets a woman that he truly loves. So don't wait until he tells you not to return. Move on now.

Pastor