Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your column for a very long time. I am having a problem with my wife. Both of us are in our 40s. Pastor, she smokes and drinks hard. And every day she plays the lotto. When she doesn't have any money to buy rum, she is miserable.

Pastor, I became a Christian, and I invited her to church but she has no time for that. She is a disgrace in the community. And when she drinks, she curses everybody and uses expletives.

Pastor, she has a new boyfriend. He is a Rastafarian. She is also smoking weed. She left my home and spent the weekend with him and I did not know where she was. When I asked her why she did that, she said that she was drunk.

I can't take it anymore so I want to divorce her. Some people say as a Christian, I must forgive her but I can't live with her anymore.

K.W., St Catherine

Dear K.W.,

Whether you decide to stay with your rebellious wife or divorce her, I suggest that you encourage her to seek professional help. Have her call Rise Life Management Services. The number to call is (876) 967-3777. They will help her with her addiction. She has to be willing to cooperate.

Sometimes when people do not believe that they have problems, they are not willing to seek help. But judging from what you have said, she has problems and if she does not get help, her condition of addiction will worsen.

She has disgraced herself and have embarrassed you. It is easy for those who are looking from outside to tell you what to do, but you know what you are feeling. Therefore, don't be perturbed by what people are saying to you. Make your own decision.

Pastor