Dear Pastor,

I am 22 years old and I am having a problem. My parents have six children, but I have been on my own from I was 15. When I was 18 I had a child, and I gave her to the father because his wife found out about us and she decided to take the child so that he won't have anything to do with me. I get to see my daughter from time to time and this man's wife and I have become good friends.

I have another man in my life, but he is old and can hardly do anything when it comes to sex. He is so jealous. I can't talk to any other man and let him see. He was living in England. His wife died and he came to Jamaica. I love this man so much because he gives me everything that I want. Whenever I need money, and I ask him, he gives it to me.

meet a man

Sometimes when I want good sex, I have to go to my sister's house and meet a man. We went to school together. He is a womaniser, so the only thing that we do together is have sex. He doesn't give me any money and I don't ask him.

The man I am living with would surely kill me if he finds out, but he can't manage sex at all. He shakes a lot, so he uses his mouth a lot. Please for your advice.

E.R., St Andrew

Dear E.R.,

Why fool the man with whom you are living? Why not go to evening classes to improve yourself? Get an education so that you will be in a position to support yourself. This man with whom you are living treats you well, so I am sure that he would gladly pay for you to go back to school. You should discuss that with him.

can't manage

I am sure that he would ask you to leave if he finds out that you are cheating on him. You say that he can't manage, but he believes that whatever he is doing it is his very best and you should be satisfied.

You are fortunate to have a man who is supporting you very well. Therefore, you should not cheat on him. If you feel that you are wasting your time with him, and you want better sex and as often as possible, you should tell him. Don't stay in his house and be unfaithful to him.

Pastor