I would like your advice. I have been married for three years and my husband and I have a child. I have become a stay-at-home mom. My husband is a businessman and he does not have much time for his family. When he comes home, he kisses me, eats and goes on the telephone or computer. Sometimes he takes the computer to bed with him. When I protest, he tells me, "I know what you want. I will soon give it to you."

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It is not always sex I want. I need his attention. If it is not his computer, he is always on his cellphone. I know he is not having an affair. He is always discussing business. The only time my husband is not on the computer or his phone is when his parents are visiting and we are all together. His father is also a businessman, but he does not say much about business when he is with us. He is more interested in hearing about the family and having a good time barbecuing.

Do you think I should mention to them that my husband does not spend enough time with me? I don't want to upset my husband. I only want him to spend more time with me and the baby.

T.

Dear T.,

Please do not complain to this man's parents about him. He would be very annoyed. When he is at home, try to do things that will occupy his time so he will spend more time with you. Plan different things for each evening after you have put the baby to bed.

It might be necessary to have a babysitter one night each week and both of you go out on a date. Plan one evening for both of you to cook supper together. Have a games night at home and play cards or scrabble, etc. Watch special movies, especially those he loves. Attend football matches together. If it is convenient, go jogging in the evenings. Leave your child with his/her grandparents and take a trip together. Finally, spice up your love life in the bedroom and your husband will prefer to be with you than his computer. Perhaps your husband is bored by the same thing every night.

Pastor