I am in a relationship with a man. He grew up in St Mary, but he is now living in Portmore, St Catherine. When I go to spend weekends with him, he wants me to make breakfast, but I am not accustomed to making that type of breakfast he likes. He wants me to peel bananas and yam and cook curried chicken. I tried to do it to please him, but I don't like it. He is a mason and says if I am not going to do it, we are not going to get along. He said if I want to spend his money, I have to learn to cook his food.

Pastor, I am prepared to leave him, but he is sending me to school and he is the only person I have to help me. He had a babymother, but they broke up because she was unfaithful. He is a very jealous man. I told him he should try to eat more eggs in the mornings, but he does not like bread.

Sometimes when I buy chicken and chips, he quarrels and calls it a waste of money. But how can it be a waste if I enjoy it? Pastor, why are some men so hard to please?

My first boyfriend wants me to come back to him, but he has nothing to offer me, only stress. Please give me your advice.

T.I., St. Catherine

Dear T.I.,

I can understand why this man wants you to cook yam and bananas for breakfast. He works very hard, so he believes he should have a heavy breakfast. You want to give him bread and eggs, but, to him, such breakfast is too light.

This man is paying your school fees, so he does not want you to spend his money buying chicken and chips when you can cook a balanced meal and save money. Perhaps he is demanding too much from you, but, on the other hand, he is teaching you to be responsible and thrifty. Perhaps you should stick with him and learn to please him by cooking the food he likes.

Your ex-boyfriend has nothing to offer, but if you love him more than you love your present boyfriend and it doesn't matter to you whether you go to school or not, you should tell your present boyfriend you are moving on. If you love your present boyfriend, try to reason with him at all times. He doesn't seem to be a bad man.

Pastor