Greetings to you and those who work with you. I am 17 and I am having a problem. I attend a prominent high school and I am in love with one of my teachers. I always want to talk to him because I admire him so much. He is a nice teacher, and he dresses well, but I heard that he is married. I know that you would say that I am bad, but I will still give him sex if he asks me for it. But he has never asked me.

One day on the playfield, he was passing by and I said, "Sir, I love you" and he said, "All my students should love me, and I love all of them." I can't believe that he is so slow and that I didn't mean it the way he interpreted it.

Sometimes, when I think about him tears come to my eyes. He is the only man who can get me to do out-of-order things.

I have a boyfriend, but I can't tell him how I feel about this teacher. He tries his best to help me. He does construction work, but he doesn't always get jobs. He is the third guy that I have gone to bed with. I have been having sex from I was 13 and I like it. And having a boyfriend has not prevented me from doing well in school.

What do you have to say to me?

N.R., St Catherine

Dear N.R.,

What I have to say to you is that you should try and control yourself. You became sexually active very early. And as I was reading your letter, I wondered about your parents. Are you not under parental control? Do you not receive support from them? Why is it that you became sexually active so young and have had three different boyfriend, and you wish to become sexually involved with one of your male teacher?

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You are not just hot, you are indeed bad. You know that your male teacher could get into trouble if he were to take you on and become intimate with you. You are being promiscuous, and you are proud of it.

Your male teacher is a wise man. You may think that he is naïve and he doesn't understand what you are trying to do, but he does. He is trying to protect himself, his marriage, his job, his school and you.

He knows that you don't understand that what you want him to do will bring shame and disgrace on him. And if both of you were to become involved, it won't be long before the whole school knows what is happening.

I am glad your lifestyle has not affected your school work. I am sure, however, that you would do better if you were to concentrate more on your lesson and think less on sex. I am begging you to leave your male teacher alone. If you continue to be promiscuous, people would loose respect for you and may even call you names that are unbecoming.

Pastor