Dear Pastor,

I am writing you with tears in my heart. I am 21 years old and I am having a problem. I am married but my husband is not living with me. He lives abroad. We got married when I was 19 plus, then he went to America and did not return.

I waited one year for him to come back, and when he didn't, I got involved with my friend's husband. Now I find it very hard to stop having sex with him. He is loving and romantic and he has a bigger penis than my husband. My girlfriend doesn't know that I love her husband and that I am having sex with him.

Please tell me what to do.

T.E., Kingston

Dear T.E.,

Your girlfriend trusts you, but if she finds out that you are having an intimate relationship with her husband, the friendship will come to an end. It is unlikely that she would want to share her husband with you.

Is your husband planning to return to Jamaica? Is the relationship between both of you dead? Why is he away for so long? Did he overstay his time and is hoping to receive a green card in America? It is unfortunate that he has left you for so long. You are a young married woman and you need him.

unfaithful

You ask me what you should do, I can tell you in a few words, end the relationship with this man. I can't sanction what you are doing, but I do know that the Bible says that couples should not separate from each other for a long period of time. If they do, they will be tempted to become unfaithful to each other. And that is what has happened to you.

Your friend's husband might be sexy, romantic and has a larger penis than your husband, but he is another woman's husband. And there is no future in such a relationship unless he decides to divorce his wife and marry you. But he will never trust you because he will always remember that you cheated on your husband with him.

Therefore, I beg you to keep away from this man. And when you are tempted to cheat, try and occupy your time by doing something physical.

Pastor