Dear Pastor,

I am a young lady. Suppose a woman is living with her spouse and was going abroad for a year, that woman would give her spouse permission to cheat. In her subconsciousness, she knows he will cheat after a year. Therefore, she is just giving him the permission from early. Also, some married couples will give permission for each other to cheat to explore other sexual enjoyments to bring back in the bedroom later on. It is all in the name of love.

C.R.,

Dear C.R.,

I disagree with you. Only foolish couples would make a covenant with each other to cheat so that they can explore sex outside of the marriage, and then bring back to the relationship what they have learnt. Such couples would have to be crazy. That would be a recipe for separation and divorce.

I know that there are women who have said to their men, "I know that you are going to cheat. I don't want you to cheat, but if you are going to have sex with other women, please use a condom." Infidelity has never helped a marriage union. Infidelity destroys relationships.

Pastor