How are you? It has been a while since I haven't written to you but I have been listening to your program.

I have come across many disrespectful men, especially in Jamaica. They have no approach. They don't know how to treat women and it is very sad. Sometimes the words that come out of their mouths are disgraceful and they don't care. The sad thing about it is they see decent women and have the audacity to approach them, believing they are going to get a minute of these women time.

Things need to change. Parents need to start training their sons so they can grow up to know how to treat women.

Love you and take care.

T.,

Dear T.,

You are quiet correct. Training begins at home. We know that children live what they learn. When their parents are disrespectful to each other, the children will do the same, not only at home but at school, in the workplace and in their social life.

Fathers who use expletives to their children, the children do the same to them when they become teenagers and adults. The same is true for men who physically abuse their wives, the children do the same when they grow up. They saw their fathers beat their mothers and accepted that as the norm.

Often, women who are vulgar pass on the same behaviour to their girls.

Pastor

One blood, one love

Dear Pastor,

I have heard a Rasta man say the races should not be mixed. Each race should stick with its own people. This statement has been bothering me for a while because there would be no Bob Marley, Malcolm X, President Obama nor Tiger Woods etc. Most of these relationships produced children and a lot of these children are great men and women of this world.

Mixed relationships have been going on long before the days of slavery, like from creation. The only little fault I see in it is that most of them don't tend to last as long as the same-race relationships and sometimes these children, when they are young, might be looked upon as if they are out of place.

I am black but I have both Indian and white in my family and, personally, I don't have any problem with them at all. I say one blood, one love.

R.P., Canada.

Dear R.P.,

Individuals have a right to marry the ones they love. No one should condemn people for having inter-racial relationships. It is nobody's business but their own.

Pastor