I have a problem. I am 30 years old and from rural Jamaica but living in Kingston. I am working with a family and I have fallen in love with my boss' brother. When he comes to the house, he acts as if he doesn't know me but when I am there alone, he brings me lunch, money and has sex with me.

These people are 'high coloured' people. And he told me that he has always liked black girls. He said he doesn't want his brother to know that he comes to the house and has sex with me because his brother would curse him.

My mother had to do an operation and I told him she would not have all the money and he gave me $30,000 to help her. That was the most money I got from a man. The only thing I am scared about is that he has never used a condom when we are having sex. I asked him what would happen if he got me pregnant and he said that I should not worry about that.

Sometimes when I go back to home and see my boyfriend I feel guilty, but this man is really taking care of me. What do you think I should do?

Helper

Dear Helper,

I cannot encourage you to continue this relationship. It is purely sexual. If this man thought highly of you, he wouldn't be afraid to let his brother know he loves you and he would come and take you out sometimes.

Another thing, whenever he is having sex with you, he doesn't use a condom. It is not just pregnancy you should be concerned about. You should be concerned about sexually transmitted infections. So the relationship you are having is not healthy. Therefore, I would urge you to end the relationship with this man.

Pastor