Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem with my wife. She is not a good woman. Both of us are 46 years old. She went to America and got involved with another man. I heard about it and told her she should come back home.

Since she came back, every day the man calls her two or three times. He tells her he misses her and she should leave me and come back to him. Sometimes I hear her talking to him on the phone when she should be in bed with me. Since she is back, I have to be fighting her for sex. That never used to happen before. I can't do anything to please her anymore. She said I don't turn her on.

I asked her best friend to talk to her and she told the friend that she is going to leave me. And she can't stay with me because she would be keeping herself down.

Please give me your advice.

H.T., St. Ann

Dear H.T.,

It is only a matter of time before this woman buys another ticket and goes back to America to the man she thinks loves her. I wish I could soften the blow she has given to you by saying if you go to counselling, she would not leave you. But as I see it, her mind is made up. She is on her way out.

You can ask her if she wants to go to counselling or you can release her. You have not done anything wrong, so if it is her desire to leave you for another man, wish her well.

Pastor