Dear Pastor,

I know a man who really likes me. He would do anything for me. He really cares about me. We are just friends now but he wants us to be more than friends. He wants a relationship but I am scared.

Recently, I asked him when was the last time he had sex and he said last week. I was very upset with him. he consoled me and said she meant nothing to him. He didn't even kiss her. She really likes him and just wanted a quickie.

I don't know what to do.What if this happens again? I don't want to get heartbroken and cheated on again like in previous relationships.

V.R., St. Andrew

Dear V.R.,

If you are scared to get into a relationship with this young man, then you should not do so. Whenever you have a big question mark about anybody, don't establish an intimate relationship. If you are convinced this man is the right man for you, then you could consent. you are not sure, so you should say no to him.

Having said the above, let me hasten to say you like this guy. that is why you became very upset when he told you he had sex recently. You were disappointed in him. How could he be loving you and, at the same time, having sex with another woman? That has even made you question whether you should have a relationship with him.

You can't be sure that what he said about the girl is true and that he is not having a permanent relationship with her. So be very careful.

Pastor