Dear Pastor,

I have a problem with my husband. I have been married to this man for 10 years. When we first met, he told me he loved me and he had four big sons. He also said his wife had died. My husband also died at about the same time, so this man and I decided to get married.

At the time, this man had a little board house. when I told my children, they said I should not go there because the house was not good.

Pastor, when he came to my house he did not have anything. I took him in and married him. my children were grown and had left so I was alone at home. He is wicked to me. I cannot talk to him anymore because when he has money he takes it to his children.

Please, tell me what to do. I am a Christian. If he does not take anything (money and food) to the yard, should I work and feed him? Pastor, God says you must not feed a lazy man or woman.

Fed Up Wife, St. Ann, Jamaica

Dear Fed Up Wife,

Your husband should not expect you to provide for him and to take care of him in every way without getting any financial support from him. He is crazy. Every man needs to take care of his home first before he spends money on anything else. Wise men take their pay cheques home. if their salaries are lodged in the bank, their wives should have access to it so the bills can be paid and food put on the table. The only time a woman should feed her husband without him making financial contribution is when he is unemployed or ill.

"Sorry for mawga dog, mawga dog turn roun bite yuh". this is exactly what this man has done to you. You took him from his dilapidated home and fixed him up and he has become very ungrateful.

Tell this man to pull up his socks. otherwise, he should leave.

Pastor