Dear Pastor,

I am a woman in my mid-thirties. I have been having some problems keeping men. After I have sex with them, we would break up. Then they hate me. I do not know what is wrong. I know that I am a beautiful woman. Why do they leave me?

A.M., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear A.M.,

Perhaps the reason why these, men are leaving you soon after they have had sex with you is because you are too easy to get. When a woman does not put up any resistance and is quite willing to have sex with a man she has just met, she sends a message to the man. And that message is, "Good gracious is suh she easy?". "She didn't give me any trouble at all; I wonder if she is so easy with every man".

Some women seem not to understand that although men love to have sex, if women do not have certain qualities, men will not stay with them. Their hips could be as broad as ever, their breasts firm, legs beautiful, etc. and men will still walk away from them because they might be looking for a wife and they are not "wife material".

I am, therefore, suggesting that you examine yourself and ask yourself why is it that no man is staying with you. I suggest further that you make an appointment to see a family counsellor for guidance.

When a man shows interest in you, don't take him to your house and don't go to his house or anywhere you may be tempted to have sex with him. Date as long as you can and get to know the man very well and pray God he will propose to you and make you his wife.

Pastor