Dear Pastor,

I have this man, and I love him but I think he is cheating on me. He doesn't even touch me anymore or, to make it clearer, he doesn't have sex with me anymore.

I know he is cheating because he starts to hide things from me. He changes his password to his text messages. Even in the nights, when his phone rings, he has to go aside to talk, and normally he would stay and talk to the person. Pastor, I do not know what to do and I love him dearly.

T.B., Kingston

Dear T.B.,

You seem to have good reasons for believing that your boyfriend is cheating. However, you shouldn't be searching his phone. Both of you need to talk, although I believe that you have already done so. If you believe that there is a future in this relationship and that counselling would help, you need to encourage him to go with you to see a family counsellor. I wish you the very best.

Pastor