The problem is that I met a man. He said that he was a Christian and he was going to a sabbath church. He asked me to come and spend the weekend with him because he couldn't sleep without me. I left Mandeville where my mother sent me to learn nursing. I even gave him money sometimes and he has not paid me back. We had oral sex quite often.

One day I asked him if he loved me and he told me that he didn't know. I asked him if the lady who sat at the back of the church is more loving, and he couldn't even speak.

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My mother is coming back to Jamaica and when she finds out that I did not go to nursing school she will cry because all of her money is gone. I fell in love with the man and got nothing. I gave him my mother's money monthly, and all I got was oral sex from him. That is all he wanted. He is a nasty guy.

He is a homosexual. I found out that he was having affairs with men and that caused him to hate me. I cried because I did not know what to do. I am telling other girls who like him to be very careful because he has sores on his face and mouth. He lives in St Catherine. I am crying.

Help me please. This week he wrote to say that he is not gay. That is a lie, he is gay.

Unknown, St Andrew

Dear Unknown,

This young man deceived you. I hope you will understand why I have deleted the name of his church. His church should not be condemned for his behaviour. This guy is cunning. He made you believe that he loved you. You trusted him and that is why every month you gave him the money that your mother sent to you to attend nursing school. He is such a wicked fellow. He has messed you up.

He is a liar and he is behaving as a thief. You have to demand the money. You claimed that he is a homosexual and you can prove that.

Whether you are right or wrong, you should end the relationship with him immediately. And if indeed he has multiple sex partners, you should go and do an HIV test.

What do you plan to tell your mother about the money she has been sending to you?

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Regardless what you tell her, she should demand that you return the money to her because you did not use it for the purpose for which it was sent to you. While you wait on the man to give you back what you loaned him, you should get yourself a job and earn enough to pay back your mother. Can you prove that the money you gave to the man was a loan?

I hope that you will learn from your dreadful mistake. Never love a man more than you love yourself.

Pastor