Dear Pastor,

A big hello to you. My problem is this, I have been in a relationship for the past five years and we have a child together. The guy cheated on me a few times but we have talked things over and have decided to try to make things work.

I have been in love with someone else for the past 14 years and no matter what, I can't seem to get him out of my mind. He is married with children, but he is having problems in his relationship.

distance

We both want to be together but the distance is keeping us apart. He lives in Jamaica and I live abroad. Although we are both having problems in our relationships, it is hard for us to let go because of the children. However, we want to be together.

Please tell me what to do.

S.G.,

Dear S.G.,

Continue to try to make the relationship you are having with your present boyfriend work. Seek professional help. Although you are not able to get the married man out of your mind and you still love him, you should realise you are helping to destroy the relationship he is having with his wife. He might not be telling you the whole truth by saying he is having problems, with his wife. Perhaps he is doing so because he wants to have you as his sweetheart and have a ball with you whenever it is possible to see you.

Remember, in life it is not everything you want you can get.

Pastor