Dear Pastor,

I read your column every day. I am in a relationship but my boyfriend wasn't spending enough time with me. Then it reached to the point where he told me he got involved with another girl. He asked me to forgive him and I told him I will but I will never be intimate with him again. Then he told me that in a relationship things do happen. I said that is true but I don't have any ties to you. We don't have kids and we are not married. I am 20 years old. I am in a job and I also attend classes. So if you did something bad to me why should I stay? I told him to go to hell.

He is still trying to get back to me. I told him he has no chance. Pastor, that guy wanted to give me a baby so much. I told him I am not ready. Do you know what happened one night? We had sex at my house. I always check the condom before he takes it off, but I didn't that night. I woke up the morning and went in the dust bin to check it. To my surprise the condom burst. He didn't say anything to me but I took the morning after pill.

I want all the woman out there to make the man pay the price when they do wrong. Keep up the wonderful work, pastor.

Smart girl

Dear Smart girl,

You are indeed a smart girl. And you should not give this man another chance. I hope you will do well in school and pursue a career. Allow this man who now has his babymother to remain with her. You have lost nothing.

Pastor