Dear Pastor,

I am desperately seeking advice as to what to do next.

I am a 24-year-old female from Jamaica. I am currently married to a 39-year-old white guy from the USA. I got married at the age of 23. At that time, I was still living with my parents. My husband was 38 years old then.

We met in May 2009 on a social networking site and got married October 2009. We dated for approximately four months before we tied the knot. The first two months of our relationship were great. In the third month it was really terrible because he started talking naughty to me. He was constantly verbally abusing me at the time, and I did not see it until now. But he wanted us to get married in August of last year.

I was unsure of marrying him because we had not known each other for a long time. He was always and constantly pressuring me into marrying him. My family didn't approve of him, because they said I didn't know him and he is probably a psychopath. They don't believe in the whole idea of hooking up with anyone online.

It was really hard for me to decide. One side of my mind was saying go for it while the other side was saying get to know him, more. I wasn't going to marry him but he just kept on pressuring me, so I gave in.

All through the marriage right up until this day, it has been very rocky. I have to be constantly putting up with verbal abuse. At times when he gets upset on the phone, he tells me if I was nearby, he would choke me.

He is currently doing the CR1 visa for me to live in the USA. But I don't want to go, because I fear for my life. I believe he is going to hurt me.

He visited me in August 2010 in Jamaica and when he was here he told me he had a serious problem - something I wasn't aware of when I was marrying him. He lied to me about a lot of things.

The main reason I want an annulment is, I found out a month ago he has been impersonating me online, especially on Facebook, MySpace, hi5, Tagged, Net Log and other areas I am probably not aware of. He had been impersonating me as a lesbian/bi-sexual female - which I am not and never will be. Because of this, he had hits on girls from Jamaica and all over the world, but especially girls who live in my town.

When I tried to consult them online to tell them it's not me doing it, they threatened to hurt me physically. He has managed to steal my identity and has ruined my image and reputation, because I realised he had posted pictures and videos of me on Facebook, and other people are copying them and posting them to other websites.

His behaviour is sick and perverted. I think he has a mental disorder or something, because there's no way a normal person who loves another and cares for him or her would do that. Because of it, I am having a nervous breakdown. I am totally stressed out and depressed to the point where I am having high blood-pressure issues and frequent migraine. He has hurt me mentally as well as emotionally. He just proved my family right about the things they told me about him. I have no idea what I got myself into, but I believe he used me.

He always wanted to control me and tell me what to do and who should be my friends. We never lived together before. I have realised I made a mistake by marrying him. What he is doing is mentally cruel to me.

I also came to find out that he had been impersonating his other ex-girlfriends online. My older sister talked with the local cops here, but they said we should go to Kingston to report the identity theft.

I just want my life back. Is there a way I can get an annulment?

A.L., Portland Jamaica

Dear A.L.,

Clearly this man is a pervert. Although your letter is long, I have decided to publish it so that others will learn from your mistake. You did not know this man very well and yet you agreed to marry him. He has destroyed your reputation. I have said on numerous occasions, people should be slow to believe what they see on these social networks.

I suggest you seek the help of an attorney-at-law. I hope you have enough information on him so the lawyer will be able to track him down and eventually legally set you free. I will be praying for you.

Pastor