Dear Pastor,

I hope all is well. My problem is I have been with this guy for four years. He had been a good man for the first three years but he seems to have changed. I am confused. He claims he loves me, yet he can't stop cheating. He is cool to talk to.

After I found out he changed, I moved on, but he never did. He calls me every day. We never truly left each other. I just started avoiding him.

He is living with one of his other women. It hurts, but what can I do? He has no respect for me. He is always saying in front of friends that I am is wife, but how is that so and he still lives with another woman? He said it's because I work and go to school, he doesn't want to stress me with his kids. I think that is a lame excuse. We used to live together but I left because his cheating was becoming unbearable. Now he's crying to come back to me.

I need your advice. I have been talking to another man for five months now. He is nice and cool, but I only like him as a friend. I still love my ex-boyfriend but I am scared to go back. Pastor, he cries everyday. He even asked friends to talk to me but it is really hard. I have been hurt too much.

I await your advice as soon as possible.

Confused Heart, St Andrew

Dear Confused Heart,

Why should you be confused? This man has not treated you well. He has always had other women and he is currently living with one. He has no respect for you. Why do you want him back into your life?

This man knows why he is crying and begging you to come back. You may think he has missed you so much but he knows what he wants. If you want to make yourself a fool by going back to him, it is up to you.

Pastor