Dear Pastor,

I read your column everyday. I am having a problem with my boyfriend. One night he came to visit me and I had sex with him. I fell asleep. when I woke up I did not see him on the bed. My girlfriend was staying with me. I heard sounds coming from my her room. when I pushed the door and looked in, I saw him having sex with my friend. I could not believe what I was seeing. That same night I asked her to pack her things and leave because she was staying with me while my parents were away.

When my parents are here, my boyfriend cannot come to the house because they don't allow me to had a boyfriend. he came and have sex with another girl in my parents' house and it really hurt me because he used the last condom with me and had sex with her without a condom. I don't want this worthless girl to be my friend anymore.

A.S., Manchester

Dear A.S.,

In the first place, you know your parents trusted you. They didn't expect you to bring a man into their house and have sex with him. They gave consent for you to have another girl stay with you, but you allowed your man to come and he stayed over. when he was finish having sex with you, he took on your friend. He was having a jolly, good time.

He is not a good man and you should drop him and never consider the other girl as a friend. Don't just blame her for what happened. Your man took the initiative and your friend showed she was easy to get. This man is not someone you should be proud of as a boyfriend. He has no respect for you. Therefore, you should tell him the relationship is over.

Pastor