I have been married for five years. My husband is a businessman. He is 65 and I am 40. My husband's son and I are the same age. Every business transaction he has to do, he does it with his son. I don't know anything about his business. Before we got married, he used to tell me after we got married he would tell me about the business, but he hasn't done so. Whenever I ask him, he tells me it's family business and if anything happens to him, his son will carry on the business.

I am afraid to talk to his son about anything because he and his father are very close. Pastor, my husband treats me very well. I have everything to my comfort. He gives me anything I want. We don't have children together. It is just that he is secretive about his business, and I am concerned about it. He goes to work and he comes home early. He goes into his study, locks the door and works for sometime and then he comes to bed. I can go anywhere I want and my friends can call me. He doesn't question me about anything. I love him so much, but why is it he does not let me into the business part of his life?

His son doesn't talk very much. He is just like his father. Sometimes I wonder what would happen to me if anything should happen to him.

T.L., St Andrew

Dear T.L.,

First of all, let me say you are very fortunate to have a good man as your husband. He loves and provides for you. That is so much more than many wives can say about their husbands. On the other hand, he is keeping you out of his business. I want you to know that is not unusual.

Many husbands do not want their wives to be involved in their business affairs. He feels comfortable having his son involved in his business. You should leave that alone. Your husband will tell you what he wants you to know.

Before you got married, you should have asked your husband whether he is in debt and whether the title of the house is in his name only. That you ought to know, for sure. you should encourage him to make a will. Everybody should make a will. That is something you should insist he does if he hasn't made one yet.

Please, please, don't rock the boat or push your husband. If you do, he may become suspicious of you and start to wonder. Be wise. Lovingly persuade him to do the things he ought to, but don't be overbearing.

Pastor