I am 21-year-old and my girlfriend is 22 and we have a child together. This relationship didn't start out well. When we just met, she had a boyfriend and he was abroad. We had a one-night stand and she got pregnant. She told her boyfriend about what happened and he forgave her. Now he is coming to Jamaica and wants to marry her and she agrees.

I told her she can go with him but she must leave my son. She said she is not going to leave our son behind. We are still having sex but she says that she would like her boyfriend to meet me so we can discuss the future of the child. My mother told me I should allow her to take the child, but I am worried that I may never see my son again. Please tell me what to do?

J.K., Jamaica

Dear J.K.,

Your mother is quiet correct. You should allow the mother of the child to take him with her when she is leaving to live abroad. She is his mother.

What started as a one-night stand between you and your child's mother has become permanent because both of you are still having sex. So if this woman truly loves her fiancé who is abroad, her conduct does not show that she truly loves him.

Perhaps she would marry him because by doing so it will enable her to live abroad. But she may continue to be unfaithful with somebody else.

I really cannot encourage you to continue having an intimate relationship with this woman. Be sure to support your child but end the intimate relationship with her. Be a big man and don't encourage her to give her fiancé bun and when he comes to Jamaica, don't meet with him.

Pastor