I admire the wonderful work that you are doing. I am married. I have two children with my husband. I love him very much and he loves me but he is never satisfied when it comes to sex. My husband will have sex with me anytime of the day or night. Sometimes I am very tired at nights. Sometimes I am scared to go to bed. If I go early I know he will have sex with me two to three times for the night and I am a schoolteacher and sometimes I am tired. He is 38 and I am 30. I warn him that I am not going to feed him so well again because I can't cope with his sexual appetite.

Pastor, is there anything my husband can use to cut his sexual drive? I don't wantt to tell any of my friends about this problem. I know he is not cheating. He is always home with me and sometimes when I complain, he tells me that if I continue like that he will go and have sex with another woman.

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Dear É,

There is a breakdown in communication between your husband and you. What you are complaining about is what some women would love to have. Some women would say that you are so fortunate. At least you are not sex starved and you are keeping your husband happy at home.

If your husband wants to have sex two to three times a night, there should be room for compromise. You may make love to him for a short period of time before you go to sleep or at midnight or early in the morning. You may also teach him to do quickies. But the worst thing you can do to your husband is to reject him and always making excuses why both of you should not make love.

Some women know that one way to keep their husbands satisfied is to relax and let them do all the work (I hope you understand what I mean). Don't try to give him anything to try to cut his nature; you may kill him.

Pastor