I am having a real problem and I need your advice. I am living with my boyfriend who is 27-year-old and I am 19. When I came to live with him I did not know that a girl next door and himself had a relationship. She is a year older than I am. When I found out about her and I asked him, he said that they are no more friends. She keeps calling him and he is always telling her not to call his phone. Where she is living, we can see her through her window and she is always pulling her curtain and walking around her room just in her underwear and bra and very short shorts. She is doing everything to get my boyfriend back.

I read a text message that she sent to him saying that she is going to make his life miserable because he took her virginity and caused her to do an abortion and she cannot love any other man. She has never interfered with me and I don't interfere with her either. I just wish she could leave my boyfriend alone.

Please, tell me what to do. Thank you very much pastor.

W.T., St Andrew

Dear W.T.,

This woman has not given up the young man with whom you are living. They were lovers and although as far as he is concerned the relationship is dead, she doesn't see it that way. I have observed that you did not say why your boyfriend and this woman are not still friends.

She is doing everything to entice him. That is why she is opening her curtain and walking around in her underwear. Perhaps she is trying to show him that she is still available and is reminding him that she is still in good shape and still sexy, perhaps more sexy than you. I am glad your boyfriend is not accepting her non-verbal invitation. Perhaps both of you should consider moving from the area so as not to have her interfering with your life.

I am also glad that she has not really have any confrontation with you. Make sure you do not say anything to her. If you do, she may go further in exposing herself and try to bring a division between your boyfriend and yourself.

Pastor