I am a 30-year-old woman who has been hurt so many times by my children's father. The bad treatment all began when he sent for my eldest son and I to live with him in England. When I went to England, I was so happy to see him and for him to see his son for the first time. When he sent for me I thought we could come together and work in order to send money back home, so that if they deported us to Jamaica, we would have money to buy a house and support our children. He was not thinking about that. He had other things on his mind.

treat me like dirt

I got pregnant with my second child and he started to treat me like dirt. He started to sleep with other women. He even got another woman pregnant and called me all kinds of name under the sun. Now, he has found out his mistake, he is begging me to marry him but I told him I would not marry him. Pastor, I have given him, so many chances and he threw them in my face. I do not feel the same way about him anymore.

Please, I am asking you for advice.

A.L., United Kingdom

Dear A.L.,

If you do not trust this man anymore, and do not believe you will be happy with him, you should see to it he supports his children, but go no further in the relationship. His actions have shown he does not love and respect you. If you are not legal in the United Kingdom, please, consult an immigration lawyer for legal advice.

Pastor