Dear Pastor,

I am in love with a woman who has many male friends and yet she does not want me to talk to other women. Every female friend I have she gets into an argument with them. One of my co-workers lives on the street with me, so I give her a ride home from time to time. And she called her and cursed her and told her to leave her man. The girl went to work and told everybody not to have anything to do with me because of my girlfriend.

I have never cheated on my girlfriend. But every day she accused me of cheating. I love her very much but I cannot stand it anymore. She has two children and they call me daddy. Their father is not supporting them and I am the one sending them to school but this woman does not appreciate me. People ask me all the time why I stay with her. I am stressed out. When she is ready she curses me and uses expletives right before the children. It is only the children why I am still around. They are not my own.

I would like to know what to do.

J. L.

Dear J.L.,

Insist that this lady and you go for counselling. If she refuses to go, tell her you would have to move on and mean it. If after counselling, she continues to be abusive, end the relationship with her. You may continue to help the children occasionally but they are not your responsibility. Only a foolish woman attacks a man and accuses him constantly without basis.

Pastor