Dear Pastor,

I am an 18-year-old girl and I met a guy about two years ago. He performed oral sex on me for about a year and a half. A month ago he decided it was time for us to get to know each other on a more intimate basis. We finally started to talk to each other on a different level until we had sexual intercourse.

Last night I received a phone call from a woman who identified herself as his wife. She told me she was nine months pregnant with their child. He did not tell me he was married and I really do not know what to do now.

The part that hurts the most is that I ended a relationship with a man who I loved and who loved me in return. I hate the fact that he is married and it is driving me crazy. Please, help me.

S.C., Ontario, Canada

Dear S.C.,

What an awful, wicked man! He has deceived you for two years and encouraged you to have oral sex with him. He knew you were young and naïve and so he had his way with you. I wonder if this man has daughters? If he has, would he want any man to do that to any of his daughters?

I am not saying you could not have said no. The weight of the blame is on him because he was an adult when he met you. You were a child and he led you to believe that he was free. Well, now that you know that he is a liar and a deceiver, I hope you will not allow him to come and 'samfie' you any more. You made a mistake in life, but you have to move on.

I am glad his wife called you. If you were to go back to this man, you are without excuse and would only have yourself to blame.

Pastor

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