Dear Pastor,

I am a 21-year-old mother living with my baby's father for the past two and a half years. My problem is that there is lack of trust and communication in our relationship. Some time ago he got a girl pregnant. She had a son by him. The son is now one-year-old and my daughter is 11 months.

The thing is that he did not know she was pregnant until recently. I am confused. This other child's mother is very feisty and gets on my nerve. I do everything for their son, but I find it so hard to accept what has happened. I do love him, but at times, I just don't know what to do. I grew up without my biological father. I do not want the same for my daughter. I love my daughter so much and I know her father loves her too. Everything inside of me wants to repay him for what he did.

Actually, he doesn't even trust me because he believes I will repay him. He wants to hold on to me. When I am going out, he puts hickeys all over me. He even puts them on my face and this man knows I have to go to work.

There is a lot more to say but when I hear from you, I will write you again. Please tell me what to do. Thank you. Love you.

K.K., Jamaica

Dear K.K.,

I wish I could say you have a good man but I can't. You don't trust him and he has caused that. You have not done anything for him to distrust you. Part of his problem is jealousy. He is also very disrespectful. He is behaving as if he owns you and he has a right to put marks on your skin to show ownership.

Don't be surprised if within a few months you hear he has another child. You are living with a man who does not care, so you should expect the worst is if you decide to remain with him.

Pastor