Dear Pastor.

I have seen where you have given good advice throughout the years. But never, in my wildest dreams, did I think I would be writing to you. I am writing in response to the letter titled, 'Ties that Bind'. Pastor, I know one of the ladies mentioned in this letter and it seems that this African guy has both of these women tied to him. Pastor, I am a well-educated individual and I have been pursuing one of these ladies for a year now but she doesn't seem to notice me. All she talks about is this man. He is her world, her everything and there is no other man on earth but this man.

I told her that I want to marry her and take her to the United States so we can build a family together. She just laughed at me.

cussing each other

Pastor, the guy doesn't even look good. He does not even take care of her. He is involved with both women and telling both parties lies. He has these women lowering themselves, cussing each other over a man who could care less about their endeavours. Yet I want to do these things, and she drives me away. It seems as if he has both these women under some kind of spell. Pastor, I want you to pray for me as I want her to see that I am the man for her. That African guy is just taking her for a ride!

It's time that men stop using women, as they are making it bad for good men like me to get someone to settle down with. This African man has no dignity to be using people's daughters like this. I hope he can be a man and choose who he wants to be with and stop taking these women for fools. Pastor, he does not even have taste in choosing women, as the woman in Jamaica is way more beautiful, sexy, and intelligent and educated than the one here in the United States. He believes in playing these two women.

Pastor, I ask you to pray for me to have faith, as I am not giving up on this woman. the African man should leave her if he doesn't want her so I can get a chance to be with the woman in Jamaica. I want to show her what a good man is all about.

stick with their own kind

These African men must leave our decent Jamaican women alone and stick with their own kind. Keep up your good work.

K.C., New York, United States

Dear K.C.,

Only boys behave and talk like you, boys, not men. If a woman doesn't want you, why should you make yourself a puppy? I reject your request to pray that this lady will love you. Something is not right here. When a man has to talk negative things about another man with the intent of getting a woman, he is weak, immature and should not be trusted.

And another thing, you should know that you should not attack a person's race. Shame on you.

Pastor