Dear Pastor

I am a 25-year-old male. I'm a very popular dancer in the parish of St Catherine that Jamaica knows. I have to confess that I have somewhat of a problem and I would like to know if you can help me. I have a 28-year-old girlfriend overseas who I think I love so very much. She has been such a wonderful woman to me.

But there is this 23-year-old girl that I started talking to about some 10 months ago. When her man flew out of the country for a while, we got together. She made me perform oral sex on her and I must say that I liked it. Ever since I tasted her, it has me dreaming about having a taste of her all the time.

laughing at me

I have no one to talk to about how I feel about her. I told her that she should leave him and be with me, so that I can give her what he doesn't want to, but she won't leave him. The funny thing is, I think her boyfriend knows that I had a taste of her and he seems to be okay with the fact that it happened. But I wonder, "Is he laughing at me in his mind?" Because he told her he won't go there but yet I did. It doesn't matter though, I need her more than ever.

K., St Catherine Jamaica

Dear K.,

You are relating your story. You are 'bigging up' yourself. You are a man who believes in 'bowing down.' And you are doing so with another man's woman. Whatever you have got from 'bowing down' has caused you to change your mind about your girlfriend overseas. To be fair to her, you should tell her about your encounters.

You have not asked me for my opinion. I have read what you have written. I must caution you that some meals are not very healthy and nutritious. So you should watch yourself. Don't brag about everything. Your mouth will get you into trouble.

Pastor