Dear Pastor,

I am writing you as a confused individual as I need advice other than what my friends are saying. I met a Nigerian guy, living in the US, online in January of this year. He was like a gift sent from God. I believe he is the one. We spoke every day for seven months, then he decided to come to Jamaica. He came here, met my family and we had a good time. He returned to the US and we have been corresponding.

The problem is that I love him and he says he love me but, pastor, I cannot feel it. He hardly calls since lately. he has never sent me a card and I have sent numerous cards and gifts. It's as if I am the only one putting out effort and when I inform him of how I feel, he says nothing has changed, it's just me nagging and he was the one who came to Jamaica to see me so he is showing some interest.

Pastor, I am confused. I have put my everything in this relationship. I have been proposed to and I turned it down because I love this guy and him alone. But, am I making the right decision? I want to get married to this guy but I am not sure at times if he feels the same. I have seen numerous changes on his part. If I ask him if he is seeing somebody else, he says no.

The main issue is trust and it's not easy to trust someone who, every other month is in another country. He always calls from these countries. He says they are business trips but I am scared.

Pastor, I want your advice as to what to do. Should I move on with my life?

S. H., Trelawny, Jamaica

Dear S. H.,

What kind of business is this man doing? I wish you had mentioned the type of work he does. Anyway, you have very good reasons to doubt this man. The vibes isn't there. And, as a young woman, you have had some experience and you know that the way he is behaving is not the way a man who is interested in a woman behaves.

Pastor