I am 26 and my wife and I have been married for almost five years and have a 7-year-old son.

The problem is that I think my wife is tired of our marriage. I love her, but I don't think she is cut out for a family.

She is very career-oriented. She was not very experienced with men before me and I think that this is contributing to her lack of certain capabilities. I think I should state clearly what I'm talking about. she doesn't really cook well and she doesn't clean up either. I came home on more than one occasion to find her underwear thrown about.

Wits' end

I am at my wits' end. I am very outspoken and she thinks that I am too critical, but my mother was the kind of woman who, no matter what made sure the house was clean and dinner done. and, she would still be able to spend time with us. My wife blames everything on work and classes, but pastor, I try my best not to bother her and do most of the things she doesn't do. She doesn't even have time to take care of our son properly. Sometimes I think she would leave him to raise himself. Pastor, I feel like I am raising two children.

Please, help me, pastor. I think I want a divorce.

O. B., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear O. B.,

There are some things a decent woman would not do. Dropping her underwear is not acceptable conduct. Some women are not good house keepers, so they hire day's workers to do the cleaning. She should learn to cook.

Try not to compare your wife with your mother. However, I understand what you are trying to say. Too bad you did not know certain things about her before you married her.

May I suggest that both of you go to see a family counsellor. Try your best to save your marriage.

Pastor