Dear Pastor,

I am a young man who is just 25-year-old. I have a problem I would like you to help me with. I have been with a girl for over three years. We met in college and I thought she was really cool.

Things were going well, until about February of this year, when I got a job as a tour consultant in the US. I don't know what has happened but things started to change between us. I realised, whenever I returned to Jamaica, every other week she would be all upset and act as if I am the worst person around. However, when it's time for me to leave, she starts crying and begs me to stay.

One day, I came home early and caught her, in the house we shared, having intercourse with my two best friends. I was so surprised that I did not know what to do. I wanted to cry. I wanted to fight. I wanted to do so many things, but I just couldn't. The thing that is killing me now is that, while she was doing this to me, she was pregnant with my child. I am so confused because I still love her and I don't want to grow my child in separate houses like most kids. But, I don't know if I still want to be with her.

Pastor, please, tell me what to do because I am about to go crazy.

N., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear N.,

I cannot encourage you to continue this relationship. Your woman cannot be trusted and she doesn't have respect for you or herself. She is a bad woman.

Leave her and, after she has given birth, do a paternity test to ascertain whether you are the father. And, remember that these two guys you caught having sex with your woman are not true friends.

Pastor