Dear Pastor,

I want to commend you on the wonderful work that you are doing.

I am having a problem with my husband. He doesn't want to help me financially with the kids. He will go away for months to Jamaica and come back when he feels like it and expects me to treat him like a king, which includes sex and the works. If I don't do it, I cannot get any sleep at nights. He annoys me and accuses me of getting sex somewhere else. He is messing up the kids' mind by going in and out of their lives like that. I want to divorce him, but I am afraid that God will condemn me for it. I am Catholic. Whenever he is around, I am so stressed. I work long hours every day to make sure my kids are taken care of. Whenever he comes around, he expects me to take care of him by buying him clothes, etc. I am so tired of all of this.

Please help me. I went to a therapist and she suggested that I take a break from him because my health is now a problem and if I am not careful I am going to have a heart attack. I have my children to live for. What should I do? I really need your input on this matter. Thank you.

F. A., Georgia, USA

Dear F. A.,

God will not condemn you for getting a divorce, but do everything to save your marriage, if it is to be saved. Divorce is the last resort.

You have been to a therapist and she has made her suggestion. You have not acted on it. Do what you believe you ought to do. Marriage is a partnership. And if one spouse is not cooperating at all, the marriage will fall.

Pastor