Dear Pastor,

I must commend you on the good work that you have been doing. I am at a loss for words as my life is truly a mess.

My problem is that I met a man nine years ago and fell in love with him almost immediately. During our relationship he failed to make mention that he was involved with another woman who was actually pregnant with his child.

We got past that problem until one day he told me that the baby lives in a violent area and it is impossible for him to see her as often has he would. He told me that he would be taking the child to live with him.

Soon after that I became pregnant. It was not too long before I found out that he is living with his child and babymother. We seemed to have resolved the problem as the babymother moved out of his house.

Same thing again

Recently, he told me the same thing again, that his child cannot go to school because the area that she lives in is a depressed one, and he would be taking her back to live with him. I am no fool; everything has changed. He no longer accepts my calls unless he is at work or on the road. He now wants me to believe that he is not having an affair with his child's mother and that he is only living with his daughter.

I really need your advice on this matter.

S.T., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear S.T.,

You were too slow in coming to realise that this man is a liar. Everything that he has done in relation to his daughter's mother shows that he is still having an intimate relationship with her. I can only hope that he would support his child after you have given birth.

Do not allow this man to fool you anymore.

Pastor

He has no intention of marrying you. Too bad you allowed him to get you pregnant.

Pastor.