Dear Pastor,

I am a 32-year-old black male living in London, England. I am a gay man and my problem is that I fell in love with a man who is married and living with his wife. I love this man dearly.

He told me several times that he is not in love with his wife and never was. He is only married to her because of societal pressure.

I spend a lot of time at his house with his wife and kids. My conscience is worrying me because I have to be living a lie in front of his family. Every time there is a fight between this man and his wife, he would find my house and stay there for days.

I now realise that there is no future for this man and myself. However, pastor, I am in love with him and I don't want to hurt him.

M., London, England

Dear M.,

If you really want to help this man and his family, get out of his life. I have said it many times and I will repeat it now, homosexuality is abnormal behaviour and people who engage in such a lifestyle bring condemnation upon themselves from Almighty God. I believe that you and this man need spiritual transformation.

May I suggest that you look to God for spiritual deliverance from this lifestyle.

Stop going to the man's house and stop entertaining him when he comes to yours.

Pastor