Dear Pastor,

I am going through some problems right now. I live in New York and my boyfriend lives in Jamaica. We've been going out for two years and a month. I talk to him every day and he tells me how much he loves me and that he can't wait for me to come back down there.

However, I truly feel that he is cheating on me. And, of course, he is going to tell me that he's not. He already told me that he will never cheat on me because he was already in that situation and he didn't. I believe him though. But, I still have the feeling that he is cheating on me. Can you please help me out?

T., New York, USA

Dear T.,

I am afraid I cannot do what you want me to do. I can't tell you whether or not your boyfriend in Jamaica is cheating or whether he will cheat. He may or may not. You may or may not cheat on him. Some folks say that people who love each other don't cheat. I hear that argument all the time but it is a very silly argument. People have been in love with each other and cheat, and after they have cheated they feel like killing themselves, especially when their spouses have decided that they will never forgive them. Such persons have never got over what they did. Sometimes the consequences are great and severe.

Has anyone ever mentioned to you that their conscience is bothering them? Well, many women who have cheated have confessed to their men what they did because their 'conscience was killing them'. Why did they confess? Because they love their husbands but in moments of indiscretion they did what they never thought they would do.

My prayer for you is that everything will go well with your boyfriend and you and that both of you will be true to each other.

Pastor