Dear Pastor,

I am a 25-year-old man living in the U.S. with a big problem. When I was living in Jamaica at the age of 13, I had sex with my cousin who was 10 years old at the time. However, since then we can't stop doing it. She moved to the USA a while back but I was still in Jamaica. When I moved to the U.S., we talked almost every day and the only thing we talked about is the way we used to have sex. My problem is that we are going to Jamaica in the summer and we will be staying in the same house and I think we will have sex.

Since she left Jamaica, this will be the first time we will be seeing each other. She told me that she misses having sex with me because no other man can't make her feel the way I made her feel.

I do not want to have sex with her. Can you please tell me what to do? I love my cousin but not to have sex with her.

V. B., New York, USA

Dear V. B.,

Perhaps while you were growing up, the adults in your home didn't even think that your ten-year-old cousin and yourself would have sex. Very often that happens when children of the opposite sex share the same bedroom. What you all did was wrong but it is even more alarming that now that you are adults, your cousin is still yearning to have sex with you.

Both of you are planning to be in Jamaica at the same time but I would urge you to tell your cousin that you would wish to put the past behind you and that both of you should not engage in the same behaviour as when you were kids. To avoid such temptation both of you should not stay in the same house and should never be in any secluded place alone. I hope you'll accept my suggestion and act accordingly.

Pastor