Dear Pastor,
My problem is that I am in an abusive relationship. I know most people would say that I am stupid to stay in this relationship, but it isn't as easy as that. I am 25 years old and I have been in this relationship for seven years. I have four children and I would hate for them to grow up without a mother and/or father. So, despite the abuse, I have tried to make the relationship work. I packed my bags and told him I would leave, but he befriended me and promised me that it would stop and I believed him.
A week after that promise, we had an argument and a fight. I ended up with a black eye, broken arm and a sprained ankle. After this incident I wanted to leave so badly, but I couldn't because I know he really loves me and I love him too. I also keep thinking of the children.
Please, I need your advice because I am confused and I don't know what to do.
A. B., St. Andrew, Jamaica
Dear A. B.,
Did you report this man to the police? Why was he not arrested and taken to court? You cause me to ask this question one more time, "What is love?" Love is not abusive. Love is kind. Love is not easily provoked. I am putting it to you that this man does not love you. And if you stay with him, he is likely to kill you and kill the children too. You don't have a happy home. You need to get out before it is too late. What are you really waiting for? The man has broken your hand. What else is he going to break? You need to talk to the people at the Women's Centre. They will advice you on what to do.
Pastor
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