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Love him too much to leave

Dear Pastor,

Firstly, I must commend you for the wonderful job that you are doing. I have a very big problem. I have been in the United States for one year and I met this guy. We were going out for some time, and then we broke up. After we broke up I found out that I am pregnant.

At first, he wanted me to have an abortion, and then he changed his mind. We went back together, or that is what I thought. Then I found out that he is with his old girlfriend.

I am so hurt because I am so much in love with him. I can't stop thinking about him. He will call to see how I am doing and check up on the baby, but I need him back in my life. At other times, I feel like I don't want him, but I really do want him. I love him too much.

Please tell me what to do for the baby's sake. Thank you. Keep up the good work.

T.R., Naples, Florida

Dear T.R.,

Make sure that he supports his child and wish him well. Don't try to force him to love you. The more you mope over him, is the more you will feel hurt.

You know he has his woman and there is nothing you can do to stop that.

What has happened will not kill you. When he told you to have the abortion, he was either saying he was not ready to have a child or that he did not want you to use the child as reason for him to stay with you. So move on with your life.

Pastor