Tell Me Pastor

I want his friend more

Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your column for the past five years and you have given great advice. Keep up the good work.

I have a situation that I could use some expert advice on. I have been dating this guy for about one year. He is a really nice guy, caring and kind. But he is getting on my nerves.

I think that the reason he is getting on my nerves with all his bad habits is because I don't have strong feelings for him. He has strong feelings for me but I don't have that much for him.

The problem is that I am very attracted to one of his close friends and I don't know what to do. I am just trying to put up with my boyfriend because I don't want to hurt him.

I also don't want to make myself look like a fool if his friend finds out that I like him and does not share the same feelings for me.

Sweetness., Miramar, Florida.

Dear Sweetness,

I suggest that you stop fooling your boyfriend. Tell him that you are not in love with him. You may tell him that you know that he is a kind and loving man, but you don't have strong feelings for him.

Concerning his friend, I would not encourage you to go his way. If you do, your boyfriend may believe that it is for that reason you dumped him.

Pursuing his friend may even cause a rift between the two friends. It nay even appear that you were dating his friend while you were still involved with him.

Pastor