Tell Me Pastor

'When she runs out, I run in'

Dear Pastor,

I knew this girl from primary school and we were not the best of friends. We later went to the same high school and got a little closer but I would not say close friends. She only spent a short time in school and then went to live in a different parish. She is not a quiet person and all her men are afraid of her.

The problem is that she had a boyfriend in high school and when she left the boyfriend and I had a relationship. This was about in 1985. I haven't seen her since. I met this Jamaican and we have become the best of friends. I hadn't seen this friend for about three years and then we met in the United Kingdom. To my surprise my best friend and the girl are related, so we all hung out together.

The girl asked me if she could come and live with me. I told her yes but she was not sticking to her part of the agreement so I asked her to leave. She was with this very nice, intelligent, quiet guy. She introduced us and we became friends. One night he came over to the house and found her with two men. He was very hurt and I tried to comfort him and we fell in love. We are together 10 months now and we are very happy.

Am I wrong to do this or is there something wrong with me? I am a very quiet and loving person who doesn't like to hurt people.

Please give me your advice. May the Good Lord bless and keep you.

Initials withheld by request, United Kingdom

Dear ..,

This girl and you are in the same boat. You all are mixed up. I hope you are not condemning this girl, because if you are, you should condemn yourself also. The girl was caught by her boyfriend during a threesome, but you took him over and comforted him in bed.

If you consider what you did a mistake, you should tell him so and allow him to deal with his girlfriend.

Pastor